Navigating Air Travel with Grace: Expert Etiquette Advice for Boarding
Air travel often brings stress, but that should never excuse rude or disrespectful behavior at airports or on planes. One critical area where manners frequently deteriorate is the boarding process. "Being mindful of your fellow passengers is crucial when preparing to board," emphasized Jackie Vernon-Thompson, founder of From the Inside-Out School of Etiquette, in a discussion with HuffPost. "It always helps boarding to run smoothly." To foster a more pleasant and efficient experience, HuffPost consulted Vernon-Thompson and other etiquette professionals to highlight common missteps during this travel stage and offer guidance on avoiding them.
Crowding the Boarding Gate: The "Gate Lice" Phenomenon
"Don't be gate lice!" cautioned Jodi R.R. Smith, president of Mannersmith Etiquette Consulting. "These are people who crowd around the gate at the first pre-boarding announcement. Please check your boarding documentation, see if you have a boarding group, and wait until your group is called." Patience is invaluable amid travel stress. Simply breathe, step back from the line, and wait your turn. Vernon-Thompson added, "It's most annoying when passengers congregate at the entrance, forcing others to tiptoe through while repeatedly saying 'excuse me.' Give way—it's not your turn. Respect those called to board; that's proper etiquette."
Trying to Board Before Your Group: A Temptation to Resist
Smith noted, "Airlines have created a situation where boarding is increasingly stressful. Charging for checked luggage and warning about limited overhead space on full flights fosters scarcity and anxiety." Many travelers opt for carry-ons to avoid early arrivals and heavy bags, and to reduce environmental impact, as lighter luggage cuts fuel use and carbon footprints. However, this intensifies competition for bin space. "Passengers feel they must board ASAP to secure room for belongings," Smith explained. "No one wants extra time on the plane, but people board early to ensure overhead space." Yet, skipping ahead is unacceptable. Etiquette expert Nick Leighton, host of the "Were You Raised by Wolves?" podcast, advised, "It should go without saying, but don't try to sneak on before your group is called."
Being Unprepared: Slowing Down the Process
"When boarding, have your boarding pass ready to scan at the entrance," Vernon-Thompson urged. "Be prepared for every airport checkpoint." Having documents ready and knowing your seat location boosts efficiency for all. Diane Gottsman, author of "Modern Etiquette for a Better Life" and founder of The Protocol School of Texas, recommended, "Be ready to store your carry-on and step out of the aisle at your seat. Allow others to pass quickly."
Pushing Past People and Blocking Walkways
Avoid pushing on the jetway or in narrow aisles. Smith warned, "There will be waiting as those on the plane find seats and settle. Don't pass someone putting their bag overhead; it's tempting to scooch by, but aisles are tight—just wait a moment." Once aboard, move to your seat promptly. Vernon-Thompson said, "If you must place a carry-on overhead, do so efficiently, then sit. Don't block the aisle longer than necessary. Be mindful of the line behind you." Also, clear paths for deplaning passengers. Smith shared, "Don't block walkways. A solid wall of people, wheelchairs, and bags makes it hard for those leaving to exit, as I experienced recently when waiting crowds slowed departure."
Taking More Than Your Fair Share of Bin Space
"The overhead bin above your seat does not belong to you," Leighton reminded. "Sharing is caring." Airlines allow one small carry-on in the bin; smaller items like purses go under the seat. Don't monopolize space—if you prefer legroom, consider checking a bag instead.
Stopping to Chat and Sitting in the Wrong Seat
Gottsman noted, "Don't stop and talk to friends or acquaintances; it holds up the line." While meeting someone while traveling is exciting, avoid blocking others. Vernon-Thompson added, "Do not shout to get attention. When time allows, walk to them briefly and return to your seat." For seating, Gottsman advised, "Familiarize yourself with your seat number. If you accidentally sit elsewhere, apologize and check your boarding pass." Leighton emphasized, "Never take someone else's assigned seat without permission." If you wish to swap, ask politely after they board and respect their answer.
Hitting People with Your Bag and Being on Your Phone
Smith warned, "Watch your roller bags! They can have a mind of their own on declined surfaces." Hold the handle carefully and lift bags into bins cautiously to avoid hitting heads. Offer help if someone struggles. During boarding, Gottsman said, "Trying to juggle carry-ons and a phone can delay storing items. Get off your phone." Once seated, use devices quietly, but avoid slowing the process.
Reclining Your Seat and Bothering the Flight Attendant
Don't recline immediately upon sitting, as it hinders those behind from boarding. Vernon-Thompson stated, "Proper protocol is to refrain until the pilot gives permission. Also, avoid standing and leaning into the seat ahead. Focus on sitting and fastening your seatbelt; you can get comfortable in the air." Respect personal space. For flight attendants, don't bother them unless necessary during boarding. Gottsman advised, "Wait until everyone is seated before asking for a cocktail."
Being Unkind to Others: The Power of Positivity
Travel snags happen, but navigate them with calmness. Vernon-Thompson urged, "Be mindful of your words and tone. Don't express frustration obnoxiously. Be patient, avoid profanity, and use respectful language." A positive attitude makes a difference. Gottsman concluded, "Smile and say hello to flight attendants. Start your trip pleasantly. Be patient with families and babies—a smile and understanding look ease stress for nervous parents."
