Once you have mastered the basics of oral sex, it is easy to fall into a routine. However, bedroom skills can always be refined. Sex experts recommend a simple adjustment known as the Kivin method, or sideways method, to elevate the experience for both partners.
What Is the Kivin Method?
The Kivin method is an oral sex technique that involves a perpendicular position. Instead of facing the receiver head-on, the giver lies across their body, aligning their lips side-to-side. The receiver typically raises one or both legs over the giver's shoulder for better access. This technique focuses on stimulating the clitoris, vulva, and perineum from the side, providing broader stimulation that many find more intense and pleasurable.
The perineum is the diamond-shaped area of skin, muscle, and tissue between the anus and genitals. The sideways approach naturally changes the stimulation and can be more comfortable for the giver, especially for the neck, according to Sadie Allison, a sexologist and author of Ride 'Em Cowgirl! Sex Position Secrets for Better Bucking.
Benefits of the Kivin Method
- Comfort: Reduces neck strain, allowing the giver to continue longer.
- Access: Frees hands for touching breasts, stomach, thighs, and hips, or incorporating internal stimulation.
- Intimacy: The receiver can caress the giver, fostering a deeper connection.
Tips for Trying the Kivin Method
Stretch First
Greg Kilpatrick, a psychotherapist and sex therapist in Pasadena, California, recommends stretching beforehand to ensure comfort during sex.
Try It on a Couch
Keeley Rankin, a sex and relationship coach in San Francisco, suggests the receiver lying on a couch while the giver kneels on the floor, tipping their head to the side. This position may be easier than both partners lying flat.
Receiver on Side
Alternatively, have the receiver lie on their side with the top leg bent and lifted, allowing the giver to approach from the side in a T position.
Use a Pillow
Placing a pillow under the receiver's hips while on their back can provide better access and angle.
Communicate
Openly discuss what feels good. The Kivin method may require exploration to find what works best for both partners.
Try the Velvet Glide
Allison recommends creating a soft seal with the lips over the entire vulva and gently gliding side-to-side, stimulating more areas at once.
Not everyone will enjoy the Kivin method, but it offers a new way to enhance oral sex and deepen intimacy.
