A wife of 10 years writes to Dear Abby about her husband's ongoing struggles with depression and anxiety. Despite her support, he repeatedly quits therapy, exercises up to five hours daily, and avoids work, leading to excessive absences and blaming his employer. His behavior has strained their marriage and his relationship with their two children.
Wife's Perspective: A Cry for Help
The wife, a counselor herself, notes narcissistic tendencies in her husband's actions. She loves him but feels like a single parent. She seeks advice on how to help him and protect her children.
Abby's Response: Tough Love
Abby advises giving an ultimatum: seek consistent help or face separation. She emphasizes prioritizing the children's welfare and suggests the wife seek emotional support for herself.
In a second letter, a reader asks how to politely decline extended trips with a friend due to personality clashes. Abby suggests citing anxiety without further explanation, but warns against sharing travel plans with other friends.
