Encroaching on Others' Space
When choosing a spot on the beach, etiquette expert Jodi R.R. Smith, president of Mannersmith Etiquette Consulting, recommends finding a location at least three paces from others' belongings. This spacing allows beachgoers to walk between towels without kicking sand on anyone. If the beach is crowded and you must sit closer, be extra careful when walking by to avoid disrupting others. Diane Gottsman, etiquette expert and author of "Modern Etiquette for a Better Life," advises respecting others' desire for solitude: "Don't assume other people want to talk. Watch their body language and if they engage, feel free to continue. If they put their ear buds in, it's a sign they want to be left alone."
Blocking Views
Setting up umbrellas, tents, or other gear should not obstruct the view of the water for those behind you. Smith emphasizes that while bringing comforts from home is fine, it should not inhibit others' ability to enjoy the sights. Place your umbrella or tent in a way that does not block the line of sight to the ocean.
Ignoring Smoking Etiquette
If you smoke at a beach that permits it, be considerate of others. Smith advises heading far down the beach away from crowds and disposing of cigarette butts properly. Discarded butts can be dangerous for birds, dogs, and children who might ingest them. Never bury butts in the sand, as they can still pose a hazard.
Not Respecting Local Wildlife
Avoid feeding birds or other animals, as it can disrupt the local ecosystem. Smith reminds beachgoers that while it may be fun to interact with starfish or snails, these creatures should be returned to the water before you leave. Treat wildlife with care and avoid causing unnecessary stress or harm.
Shaking Sand on People
Shaking sand from towels or clothing near others is a common faux pas. Etiquette expert Juliet Mitchell, also known as Ms. J, notes that "Sand in your mouth, in your eyes and on your body doesn't sit well with others." Smith recommends a "gather, then shake" approach: walk away from people before shaking out blankets and towels, especially on windy days. This prevents sand from blowing into others' eyes and ruining their beach experience.
Playing Games by Others
Games like Frisbee or volleyball should be played in clear areas away from other beachgoers. Nick Leighton, etiquette expert and co-host of the "Were You Raised by Wolves?" podcast, warns that "Frisbees going overhead can make some people nervous." Set up nets and play areas at a distance to avoid intruding on others' space, both for safety and to minimize sand kicked up during play.
Making Noise
Many people visit the beach for peace and relaxation, so keep noise levels down. Leighton advises being mindful of music and loud phone conversations, as they can easily travel beyond your blanket and disturb others. Mitchell adds, "Watch your language, especially around children. Be respectful, be considerate and be civil. No profanity and no fighting."
Leaving a Mess
Littering is not only rude and illegal but also dangerous to wildlife. Mitchell urges beachgoers to clean up their area before leaving: "Please do not litter, especially purposely, and clean up your area before you leave." Pack out all trash, including food wrappers, bottles, and any other waste.
Not Following the Rules
Public and private beaches have posted rules for safety and enjoyment. Gottsman emphasizes, "Follow the signs that act as warnings for your safety and the safety of others." Understand flag warnings and swim boundaries. Mitchell stresses, "Boundaries are set for a reason. Stay within the 'swim boundaries' or other boundaries that could cause harm to yourself or others." Additionally, Leighton notes that "All etiquette is local and it's important to learn and follow the local customs. Every beach has its own."
