DEAR ABBY: I have been married to my husband for 10 years. We live in a house he owned before I moved in. He wants to renovate to increase its value, stating the house will go to his four adult children when he passes. He is asking me to pay for half the renovations. I have already paid in full for new windows, doors, and blinds, and half the cost of renovating two bathrooms. Now he wants me to pay half for the kitchen. I feel I am funding his children's inheritance. He calls me selfish. What should I do? — FAIR OR NOT IN ILLINOIS
DEAR FAIR OR NOT: You are right. Save all receipts for improvements you paid for and get a written agreement that upon his death, you will be reimbursed for the money you spent to raise the house's value. Consult a lawyer for guidance.
DEAR ABBY: I love a married woman who loves me. We meet for sex. She won't leave her husband because she fears he will harm himself. She says they don't have sex due to his impotence. I am single and okay with this. Is something wrong? — MEETING A NEED IN WISCONSIN
DEAR MEETING: You know something is wrong or you wouldn't have written. You don't know for sure her husband is impotent. You may feel gallant, but you are being naughty, and her husband will find out.
DEAR ABBY: My mother bought me a dress. My niece, who lives with me, stole it. I let it go. Now my daughter gave me a gift card, and it's missing too. I assume my niece took it. Should I talk to my brother? — STOLEN FROM IN MASSACHUSETTS
DEAR STOLEN FROM: Talk to your brother, then tell your niece she can no longer live with you. Demand the dress and gift card back, and ask her to leave. She has a problem you shouldn't solve.
